Play date

Austin was invited, last week, to a former classmate's house for a play. From kindergarten to grade 4, Kimya was in Austin's class only once in grade 3. She had told her mom that she remembers how nice Austin always was, and how fun. So, her mom agreed for Kimya to invite Austin over for a play.

Skye and I observed with interest as Austin tried to squirm his way out of the playdate, to the points that he planned for Skye to explain to Kimya that something had come up, so Austin couldn't come over, or simply not to show up. I impressed on Austin the importance of keeping your word and keeping your commitments, but it was Skye who showed him some sensitivity and compassion. Skye was able to see that Austin was nervous.

Skye began the questioning, by asking Austin how he was feeling, and where he felt his feelings, in his body. Then, Skye named the feeling as nervousness, and stated that it's understandable for Austin to be nervous about going over to someone's house for the first time.

Skye encouraged Austin to go, try it out, and see what happens. No harm can come from it.

As it turned out, Austin and Kimya both had a wonderful time. They played soccer and piano together. Kimya has started Royal Conservatory piano lessons, and Austin is going to Creativ Music. Austin felt really good about being able to play a few songs for Kimya, and I spoke with Kimya's mom about the differences between Royal Conservatory and how Austin is learning to play.

Austin gave Kimya some soccer "lessons," giving her tips on how to kick the ball so she can get it into the air. I could tell that Austin felt good about being the "teacher," and Kimya enjoyed the companionship.

They both had a really nice time. Austin was so pleased to have been invited over to someone's house. Honestly, he was surprised, because this was the first time all year, even though he runs into former classmates frequently, when he comes to school to pick up Aidan. I think it boosted his self-esteem.